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Safe dates and healthy relationships

Healthy relationships and safe dates go hand in hand, in person or online. Looking for people you can have safe and healthy relationships with is one of the key things you can do to stay safe from violence.


What is a safe date?

It’s not just about where you go — having a good date means having a safe date, too. A “safe date” is a dating situation where you are comfortable and feel that your boundaries are being respected. Knowing and recognizing your personal boundaries, what a safe date is and what signs of gender-based violence look like can help you stay away from harm.

“Safe” can mean something different from one situation or person to another. Having a safe date is equally important for in-person as well as for online dating.

What is a healthy relationship?

In a healthy relationship, you should always feel safe, respected, valued, supported, and encouraged. You should be able to make your own choices, without being afraid, manipulated, controlled, or forced to do something.

Healthy relationships aren’t just romantic, either. They can be with friends, family, acquaintances, coaches or teachers, too.

What do safe dates and healthy relationships look like?

While you don’t need to date to have a healthy relationship, the two concepts have a lot in common, including:

You can take the Kids Help Phone quiz to help you understand what makes a friendship healthy and strong.

What are personal boundaries?

Personal boundaries are rules you set for yourself to feel comfortable in healthy relationships. And they’re not just about sex. Boundaries may be about what actions you’re willing to take, what you’re willing to talk about or what information you’re willing to share.

Learn what your personal boundaries are and respect them. Trust your instincts. It’s always okay to leave an uncomfortable situation.

What do personal boundaries look like?

Here are some examples of emotional, sexual, physical, financial, online and other types of personal boundaries:

Have questions about healthy relationships?

Safe dates and healthy relationships can seem complicated. See if your questions are answered below.

Need help?

If you or someone you know is experiencing gender-based violence, help is available.

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